What is it that makes a relationship feel strong? No matter where you’re at in your relationship, you’re always learning. Learning how to love the person in front of you. It’s with that learning that we love our partner and we ignite growth in our relationship. While healthy relationships continually grow over time, there are things you can intentionally add to boost your strength as a couple. If you’re looking for ways to deepen your connection, try one or a few of the relationship growth tips below.

1. Set aside time to reflect and goal-set together

It’s easy to get into the ‘everyday swing of things’ and forget to intentionally chat about your goals as individuals and as a couple. A great way to breathe life into your relationship is to set aside a block of time each month (or whatever regular interval suits you) to have a ‘check-in date’. This check-in date is an intentional conversation you can discuss:

• Your individual goals 
• Things you want to achieve as a couple
• If anything is troubling you within the relationship
• Both of your needs and desires
• How you can help each other with your individual goals
• What’s been working/not been working in your lifestyle

The above list is just a guide, but can help in creating talking points for things relevant to your relationship and where you’re both at in life. The idea is that you are carving out time to really connect and be open with your partner – getting to know each other deeper and also ensuring that you are living life grounded and united. 

These intentional chats can leave you feeling supported, inspired and connected.

2. Be curious about each others’ interests

You’ve fallen in love with this person and they are a collection of many many aspects. As humans, we’re so complex and we are made up of our experiences, our likes, our dislikes, our world view and so much more. 

It’s a thrill and honour to love someone and constantly discover who they are. A big part of this is their hobbies and interests. A hallmark of a strong relationship is the ability to remain curious about what sparks each other’s attention and interest. You can do this by:

1. Asking questions about their specific hobbies
2. Giving them space to talk about what interests them (even if it isn’t your first choice of conversation)
3. Asking them if they’ve learned or discovered anything new recently

You’ll find that even if you see your partner every day, there’s always more to discover about them through conversation. It’s important to show each other that you care about what lights them up and that you are willing to give them time and space to do the things they love.

3. Communicate clearly

Communication is the heartbeat of any relationship. It’s not just about talking; it’s about seeking to understand each other. To enhance the strength of your connection (and to feel supported), strive to communicate everything to avoid suppressed emotion and confusion. Neither of you are mind-readers so try to clue each other in on your thoughts, feelings and perspectives.

Active listening is so important, especially when one of you is feeling vulnerable or upset. Learn the nuances of each others’ words and body language and always ask questions. Through questions, you really help your partner and the situation. You may find these questions helpful:

1. What do you need right now?
2. Do you feel heard and understood?
3. Is there something I can do to help?
4. Would it be more helpful for you to have space or my company?
5. Do you need to talk or do you need a hug?
6. Would you like advice or would you like a listening ear?
7. If this exact situation comes around again, what can I do better next time?

Clear communication builds a foundation of trust and understanding, creating a stable and connected bond between you. Using tools like the conversation questions in Rendé dates is an amazing way to fuel deep connection in relationships as they can help to build a foundation for what grounded conversation feels like.

4. Learn how each other recharges

Understanding how your partner recharges is key for maintaining balance in your relationship and chances are it may not be the exact same way as you! 

Talk about this together and create space in both of your schedules for guilt-free recharge time. Honour that time in each other’s schedule as a priority and be sure to check in with each other about how your workloads, lifestyle and schedules are affecting your energy. 

5. Don’t forget date night! Spend intentional time together

In addition to your goal-setting dates from point one, make sure you’re having intentional and fun times together. There’s nothing like being silly and adventurous with the person you love the most. Quality time is the glue that binds a relationship – it might be an at home date using our Nostalgic Night In or perhaps a date night using The Dinner Adventure. Just be sure that you’re spending time being present with each other and enjoying yourselves.

Because at the end of the day, isn’t that what life’s about? Showing up as your authentic self, being present in the moment and loving those who are in your life.

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