Healthy relationships should grow, both together and individually. In this blog, we dive into some helpful reflection questions to ask as a couple. 

It’s easy to fall into ‘the swing of things’ in everyday life – work, routines and weekends. While there’s nothing wrong with that and relationships need to blend smoothly with everyday routines – there’s something really powerful about sometimes taking a moment to reflect on the dynamics of your relationship and how you can strengthen it.

We don’t need bells and whistles to do this and it doesn’t need to be over complicated. There are simple ways you can enhance your connection as a couple and it all starts with asking the right questions.

With your relationship in mind, think about these questions:

1. Do we prioritise time together?
2. Do we encourage each others’ hobbies, pursuits and goals?
3. Do we create a safe between us for communication? 

Whether you feel like you are succeeding on the above points or you feel like your relationship could use some work, there’s a profound Chinese proverb we like to quote:

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. – Chinese Proverb

The inspiration we take from this is that no matter how much we feel we have to work on, or how much we feel behind in progress – we can start now and make a difference.

Let’s dive into some high-level focus points that can breathe life and strength into your bond as a couple:

1. Be curious about your partner’s interests

Even if their hobbies aren’t your first pick – ask genuine questions, embrace the conversation when they talk about it and encourage them to spend time pursuing their interests.

2. Ask for what you need

Your partner isn’t a mind reader. Communicate what you need and be sure to give them space to do the same.

3. Work on yourself

A flourishing relationship is made of people who show up and put in the effort to build a life together. Working on yourself, your emotional health, your reactions and your inner world is so important for your relationship.

And of course…

4. Don’t skip date night!

Take the time for quality time. Genuinely connect, have silly fun together and spark intimacy between yourselves.

Growth in your relationship starts with both of you leaning in and wanting your connection to deepen. Relationships are dynamic and require intentional effort to flourish. By regularly asking these reflection questions, focusing on the points above and having grace for each other, you can pave the way for a more connected and fulfilling relationship.

If you’re looking for something new to do on date night, try a Rendé experience. It’s a guided date that will give you a date idea, conversation starters and connection tools while giving you a step-by-step guide for the whole experience.